I don’t “need” a girl. There, I said it. I’ve had the words to this blog post bubbling up inside of me and stuck inside of my brain for months, and I’m ready to get them out.
As a mother I have one job. My job is to raise happy, healthy children that will grow up to function as productive members of society. I mean, no pressure, no big deal right?! Here’s the thing: this is the job of any mother regardless of the gender of her child(ren).
I recently gave birth to a beautiful, healthy, perfect, living (thank goodness!) baby boy. My fourth boy, third that’s living.
As my belly grew bigger during my pregnancy, with two little boys by my side, the questions and comments about my baby’s gender came in full force.
“You’re definitely having a girl, right?”
“I can tell by how you’re carrying that it’s a girl.”
“Did you try for the girl this time?”
I’d cordially reply that I was carrying another boy, and the comments just didn’t quit. Oh no, instead they kept on coming….
“Are you going to try again for a girl?”
“I’ll pray your next one is a girl.” (This one made my blood boil.)
“The only way your family could be more perfect is if you had a mini Melissa.”
I’m so confused how the people saying these things think it’s ok to say them. Newsflash: It’s NOT ok! When did having a boy become “less than”? By saying these things are we implying that our boys are less valuable than girls?
I’m sure that mothers with all girls have the same experience (but with people asking about when they’re having a boy). This is unacceptable as well. In fact, making ANY comment about the gender of someone else’s children (born and/or unborn) should just be off limits. Seriously, just don’t. You have no idea if that mother struggled to get pregnant, has lost a child (like me), wanted children of the same gender, etc. Quite frankly, it’s no one’s business.
You know what? I would’ve gladly welcomed a little girl into our home if I would’ve been pregnant with one. That wasn’t the plan for our family, though, and I’m totally ok with that. I kind of think I’m rocking this whole #boymom thing!
The truth is, since having my new baby I haven’t once looked at him and wished he was a girl…and neither should you.
All photos in this post are the work of Heather Hall of Strictly Bella Photography.