I recently saw a conversation on Facebook about software that makes it easy to search through your spouse’s cell phone. Say what?! I was honestly blown away by the number of people casually chatting about how to track their spouse, spy on them, and read messages in their phone. I have to ask, are you someone that looks through your husband’s cell phone? Do you share phone pass codes? Or are you a couple that does not look through each other’s phones?
I have friends that fall on both sides of the phone spectrum. But, I am someone that does not look through my husband’s phone…and he does not look through mine. In fact, when I told him I was planning to write about this for this year’s March Marriage Challenge, he gave me his input about the subject! He actually told me I am more than welcome to go through his phone at anytime, and I told him the same. However, it’s not something we do behind each other’s backs…
Here are the main reasons why we don’t search through each other’s phones:
Why I Don’t Look Through My Husband’s Cell Phone
1. Trust – I trust my husband, and he trusts me. Here’s the thing, if you feel like you need to search your spouse’s cell phone you should probably do some soul searching first to see where the urge is coming from. I’m not a marriage counselor, but I’m pretty sure the underlying issue would be trust.
2. Communication – A cell phone is of course a communication device, but nothing beats a good old fashioned conversation. If there’s something you want to know about your spouse and what they’re up to it’s best to ask them face to face first before snooping through their phone. Also, if you suspect your spouse is lying to you or doing something that they’re not telling you about, searching their phone isn’t going to stop them. It’s just going to speed up the process. Kind of like ripping a bandaid off fast or slow.
3. It’s Not My Phone – My husband is his own person with the right to his own personal possessions. I’m not a warden and our marriage is not a prison. At the end of the day, his phone is his. My phone is mine. Even though I have nothing to hide, I know that I would feel hurt if my husband was sneaking around snooping through my phone instead of simply asking me what he wanted to know. This all goes back to trust and communication!
4. Ain’t Nobody Got Time for That – I’m a busy gal. I take care of my kids, husband, home, business, and sometimes even myself (ha!). I honestly have so many other things to do with my time than become Sherlock Holmes (Sherlock Phone?! lol) and dig for dirt on my own husband. He is a good man, I trust him, and I could seriously care less about the boring work text messages that he has on his phone.
So tell me, do you search through your husband’s phone? Does he look through yours? Why or why not? Leave me a comment and let me know your thoughts on this subject!
This post was written as a part of the 2017 March Marriage Challenge. Throughout the month of March we will be sharing posts o